Stationery Etiquette

REGISTRY INFORMATION

Registry information is spread via word of mouth by your closest friends and family and never goes on a proper wedding invitation.

In Australia, this tradition is less rigid and I do see it on separate cards sent with the invitation. But in the United States, this is 

typically considered a "don't" in classic wedding traditions.

WEBSITE URL

It is fine to print your website on the save the date. It does not traditionally go on your actual wedding invitation. Instead, you can put your url on an additional information card or separate, business-sized card that is enclosed with your invitations.

DOES MY SAVE THE DATE HAVE TO MATCH MY FORMAL INVITATION?

Absolutely not. Save the Dates can be more fun and less formal. Besides, not every couple

knows the exact tone they want to set for their big day this early in their planning. 

COMMON MISTAKES

~ Honor vs Honour? Only the Brits, Aussies and Canadians use "Honour". 

~ The Bride's name ALWAYS come first. End of story.

~ Middle initials are never used on an invitation. Use the full middle name, or omit altogether

~ The phrase "half after" is more formal and traditionally preferred over "half past".

~ No zip codes on the formal invitation. They are unattractive and unnecessary.

DO YOU OFFER ONLINE RSVP'S?

Yes, this is a great way to save money as you do not need to purchase the extra evelopes.

It is much more casual though. If you are having a more formal affair, a traditional mail-in

reply would be more suitable.

WHO IS INVITED?

Traditionally, only the guests whose names appear on the envelope are invited. To bring

guests not listed on the envelope is considered rude. Another option is to print “We have

reserved ___ seats in your honor” on your reply cards. You can communicate just how

many guests are invited here.

 

CHILDREN OR NO CHILDREN?

There is no tactful way to say “we don’t want your children.” Word of mouth is the only real

acceptable way to communicate this. Give this illustrious duty to your bridesmaids or family

members to handle for you.

WHAT IS HAND-CANCELING AND SHOULD I DO IT?

This adds about .21 to the cost of each envelope, but it ensures that the stamping machine

at the post office does not smudge or bend your gorgeous wedding invitations. Make sure you

take a full invitation suite to your Postmaster to make sure you purchase the right amount of

postage. Then ask about hand-canceling.

WHEN IN DOUBT?

I always confer with Emily Post and Martha Stewart when it comes to wedding etiquette.

You can’t go wrong!